The creation of your own life is the best art you can source – it’s in this spirit that I coach by.
I don’t set out to make change happen – so no pressure on you (or me). Inner Coaching works by increasing your awareness of yourself, and in keeping that attention on the points that are important to you, change will automatically start to happen. It’s an iterative and embodied process which goes at a pace and in a way that matches how you already live and work day to day.
You may have heard of ‘self learning organisations or systems’, well you are too. Your unique history and experiences cause you to view the world with a certain perspective. We work with that, so that you learn (or self-model) how you do your life, and there are always choice points should you desire to do something differently.
Within this self-modelling approach to coaching, results are often quicker and longer lasting. That’s because the approach – technically termed symbolic modelling – works with your metaphors: the packages of experience that you use (but often hidden from view) to navigate your life. They are made up of language, space, memories, feelings, thoughts, gestures, sounds, imagery and are brought into your conscious awareness when you need them. Our psyches can only cope with so much information at once, so you’ll only bring up what you need to make a change in life, with what you are actually ready for.
Using this Clean approach to coaching, clients are free to talk about painful experiences without having to confront them directly. As your coach, I may guess at what you are talking about, but ultimately it’s not my business to know. Adding to that stance, and unlike many conventional ways of coaching/therapy, it’s also not my role to judge what you say, analyse it or indeed try to change it.
If you leave the session knowing yourself better then change is likely to happen (it’s known as the Hawthorne effect).
We can’t control what happens in life, only put ourselves in the best possible conditions for observing, learning and managing our current reality whilst curating and creating new possibilities. That’s what Inner Coaching with Natalie is all about.